Popping in
I'm alive, I swear! We currently have no internet other than our phones and trying to type a meaningful blog on it just isn't going to happen!I am happy to report that we made it to Ohio and so far we are really liking it here. We also have a house! While I'm nowhere near in love with it, I know it will help a lot to have our furniture in the house. Plus we'll only be here for 18 months.
I promise that I will update more after tomorrow (we get our furniture and internetz!). I'll finish my hotel reviews, a post about the overall trip and then after that...lots and lots of posts about setting up the house. I'm very excited to share some things with you all!
I hope everyone has been doing well and I can't wait to get back into the swing of things!
How I've coped with loss
This post is going to take a little turn away from our travels.Recently I received a comment from a reader who wanted to know how I coped with my mother's passing and I felt that the question deserved it's very own post. Hopefully what I have to say will help the reader and anyone else who has/is going through a loss. Please keep in mind that this is how I dealt with my mother's passing and that I understand that everyone handles things differently.
Surround yourself with people who you love/who love you, but at the same time don't feel badly asking for time to yourself. While it was amazing to have the support of so many people, there were times that I just wanted a moment to myself. On the flip side don't spend too much time alone. I found that this was the quickest way to fall into the "what ifs" of life. Find a balance that works for you.
Also, don't be afraid to cry, if you need to, do it. Almost 5 years later I still have moments where I just break down and cry. It's not pretty, but it helps get it out. If the loss just recently happened, don't feel badly if you can't cry anymore. After about the 3rd-4th day I just couldn't cry any more. There was a solid week where I just couldn't do it...I couldn't even force myself to cry. Just because you aren't crying doesn't mean that it still doesn't hurt. Nothing aggravated me more then when someone acted like I didn't miss my mom because I wasn't able to show it at that moment.
I wasn't able to do this right away, but I did things that helped remind me of my mom. I got back into crafts and started cooking more (using her recipe cards). I talked about her to my husband. I made sure that I have pictures of her up. Though getting to the point where I could do those things and see her picture took me months.
If I can I take the day she passed as a day for myself. I still have no idea how exactly I will react, and I want to be ready for whatever my emotions throw at me. Like this year I had a total forgetful moment. I forgot that the day was coming, but my mind knew. The night before I woke up crying and kept crying. Then it hit me that I had forgotten and I cried more. Two years ago I was fine. You just never know.
Most of all, I always know that my mom loved me and that I loved her. She made me into the person that I am today and I am forever grateful for that. While I wish I could have had more time with her, I am so very glad that I got the time that I did. She may be gone, but I still think about her and love her more than ever. That is the most important thing to me being able to get through the day.
I also keep in mind that if I ever feel like I am just not coping properly that I can see someone for help. I think it's so important to know when you are no longer able to handle the grieving by yourself. If that happens, seek help, because you can't go through this alone.
One last thing, whoever said it gets easier is full of it. Yes there are easy days, but at the same time I have awful days. It hurts as much and sometimes more then when she passed away. That is something I wasn't prepared for.
In the end every day I wake up knowing I need to live my life for myself and in honor of the woman who gave me life and raised me.
For those that have lost, I am so very sorry. There is no easy way to go through it, and sadly I know how much it hurts. My thoughts are with you and I hope what I had to say helps you in some way. Know that you are not alone, and if you ever need help or to just talk, please email me.
Day 2 and hotel stays
Yesterday was a long day. It all started with the fear that we might actually have to drive both cars instead of towing one behind the other. After a freak out and a trip to a U-Haul, we were able to get the Versa up onto the dolly. Then were were off.Ten plus hours of driving and we got to Oklahoma City, OK. Seriously...the roads on the interstate in the city were awful. We bumped and jerked our way into the parking lot and by that time I was done for the night. We fell into the Sheraton in Midwest City. The woman at the front desk wasn't friendly and made me feel rushed as I filled out a questionnaire about Emmett.
All in all, it might be a place we stayed again, if we had to. Though for being pet friendly...I'd like to see more friendliness.
Today we ended up driving from Oklahoma City, OK to North Little Rock, AR. We went for a Comfort Inn here, because it is close to the interstate. It's a good basic hotel and has a low $25 one time pet fee. Sorry...no pictures, but really this hotel is not that exciting.
Tomorrow we are off to Birmingham, AL. Which I am really excited for because we are staying a what is supposed to be a very pet friendly hotel and it puts us one day out from seeing a good friend of ours!
All in all I already hate sitting in a car, but am excited about where all of this driving will be taking us!
Hope everyone else had a great start to their week!
Homewood Suites (pet friendly review)
As promised, I wanted to give reviews of all of the dog friendly hotels we stayed at.More and more people are traveling with their dogs. Or if you're us...we are moving across the country. We all expect a certain level of comfort, depending on how much we pay for a room. So shouldn't we expect that for our dog? Especially if you are paying a pet fee.
With our travels, we'll end up stay at six different hotels. My hope is to rate each one, as well as the company as a whole if I can (like if they allow pets at all hotels).
I'm going to base our rating on price of room, pet fee, comfort/feel and actual pet friendliness. These will be out of a "5 star" rating system.
So first up we had our unexpected, but very much needed stay at Homewood Suites in Albuquerque, NM.
From their site:
| Maximum size: | Medium |
| Maximum weight: | 50 lbs |
| Pet Service Fee: | USD 50.00 Non-Refundable Fee |
| Services: | Non-refundable Fee/Dogs Only |
Our rating:
Price: $$-$$$
Pet fee: $$
Overall comfort: ★ ★ ★ ★
Pet friendliness: ★ ★ ★
View or living area from door.
Small kitchen area.
Bedroom is in a separate area from living area and can be closed off with doors.
Gift bag for Emmett.
Overall we're happy with the place. It's a little more pricey, but at the same time you are getting a room with a small kitchen and living area. The beds are comfortable, but I may be biased because I have been sleeping on an air mattress. The beauty products are all from Neutrogena. The pet fee is a one time $50 charge and because we have a dog with us, we have to stay on the first floor. This is nice because it means we can get outside quickly with Emmett if we need too. While they weren't overly friendly to Emmett they did give us a gift bag with a dog toy and two Milk Bones. Though I am a little shocked not to see any poo bags, especially because I didn't notice any waist stations around the hotel.
If we ever came back to Albuquerque, we'd definitely stay here again.
Emmett says thanks for reading. Okay really he's passed out on the bed with his nose touching his toy that he pulled out of his bag (yes he has his own bag). If he were awake he would say thanks, I swear.
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